I turned our girls bathroom mirror into a wall of decay a few months ago. Actually, a year or so ago.
Anyway, it served its purpose on encouraging tooth brushing, much like the photo from Womens Day of Danniella Westbrook from EastEnders with a deviated septum discouraged nose picking when they were little.
But my wall of decay slightly freaked out tradies doing repairs, and more so lately, freaked out the now teenage girls visiting friends.
So it had to go.
It took me very little time to decide what to replace it with.
I would have loved a “clean up after yourselves, you animals” wall.
Or a “for gods sake, leave the hairbrushes/remote/phone chargers where you found them” wall.
Or even a “if it’s not yours, don’t wear it” wall.
However, despite the definite need for these walls, my brightest idea outshone all the rest. I made a wall of self worth.
I tell them all the time, but sometimes, like with a vision board, if you see it, and read it every day, you start to believe it, and achieve it.
So every morning, they will see themselves, in all their baggy eyed, bed haired glory, and, hopefully, reaffirm their self worth, self belief, and confidence.
I don’t want them thinking their shit hot, that’s not the point. The point is, to make them understand their worth.
They, like every daughter, everywhere, are worth more than any beauty magazine will have you believe.
Worth more than any ridiculous mannequin in a store front.
More than any selfish boy who won’t let you grow and explore the world.
More than any sweet talking boy who has no interest in what makes you so wonderful.
More than any maths/English assignment.
More than any grade.
More than any bull shite instagram/Facebook post.
More than any “like”.
More than trying to live up to any expectation.
That they’re worth more than gold.
Your purpose, my girls. Your job in this life. Is to go out there and be uniquely you.
Use your manners.
Put that empathy to use. Always.
Understand that you were born into privilege with a safe house, stable family.
Also understand that this is undeniably party responsible for who/where you are, but that YOU are responsible for the rest.
Your hard work.
Your common sense, will get you everywhere.
Believe in yourself, and you can do absolutely anything.
Hopefully, my new wall will do all of this. Whilst also reminding them that the old wall was there to remind them to brush their stinkin teeth.
And maybe the next plumber to call through will leave with a grin, and an incentive to encourage his daughter or son. Instead of a furrowed brow and a sideways glance.
The second pic is a message from my G3.
“Why are you so annoying Mum”
They really do love me.
Be kind people!!!